listen to episode 65!
in this episode, we are getting to know how impactful we can be in this world + how we can bring positive change wherever we go!
take a listen below!
show notes for the podcast episode
below are the show notes (supplemental reading) for this episode!
use them to take notes, complete the exercises, and take action this week —
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dear dope chick,
welcome + welcome back!
how you livin’ today?
how you feelin’ today?
are you ready, today, to take some action?
what you’ll need:
for those who are new here, who haven’t been here in quite a while, or who have been rockin’ with me since day one —
dear dope chick™ is an action based podcast so that means that every single episode you are challenged to take one step that aligns with living life on your own terms.
that means you’re taking one step today, however small, large, or however you wanna categorize it, that aligns with the lifestyle that you most desire.
unlock a new level of in your life.
this level focuses on experiencing life in a different way.
on this level, you’re listening to your heart.
on this level, you’re actualizing your dreams.
on this level, you’re not afraid of looking out of sorts, of failing, or of being “wrong”.
on this level, you’re choosing different for yourself.
you’re living life on your own terms + deciding that you’re not longer enslaved to your old beliefs.
it sounds good in theory, but this is a you thing —
what is discussed in the podcast episodes are ideas until they are put into action.
doesn’t matter what anyone else wants for your life, you must decide to do different because you want different.
this is your choice + has always been your choice.
you owe it to yourself to steer your life in the direction that you’ve always wanted to go + you can do that for yourself today one step at a time.
let’s get to work!
so, grab a notebook or journal that is dedicated to this podcast so that you can participate in the activities and exercises discussed; to see how much you have grown over the course of your life.
have you heard our previous episodes?
not yet ready do the activities presented in this episode?
we have others that may interest you so if you aren’t familiar or haven’t heard our previous episodes, take a listen so that you can make an informed choice today.
you can listen to them here.
speaking of steps, let’s talk about today’s action step:
- this is a suggestion.
- this is encouragement.
- this is not a requirement.
i am putting this out here so that you can hear it + be inspired to do something that is pressing on your heart today.
to do this week:
today’s action is to commit to evoking positive change around you.
there is absolutely no limit to how impactful you can be today, fam.
opportunities to change lives today, including your own, are immeasurable + plentiful.
if you are looking to change the world in one fail swoop, don’t bother yourself with that type of pressure.
think long haul here.
because there is an abundance of opportunities to make an impact, you have multiple ways to bring value to the lives of others.
today, no matter the situation or circumstance, commit to evoking positive change around you.
the most powerful way to add value to the lives of others is not by basing your actions on how they treat you, it’s by deciding that regardless of what they decide to do, you are deciding to handle them with care.
over the course of the week, continue setting your intentions, following through with your aims, + proactively aligning with opportunities to showcase your best self.
you know what it is that you want to experience in your life + because of this knowing, decide that you won’t settle on doing just anything with your life.
you’re not responding to just respond, you’re not gonna say things to just say things.
you’re gonna think about what you’re saying before you say it.
you’re gonna do things that align + make sense with who you are.
go after what you want to experience.
you get a different experience by changing your attitude about life + realizing what you’re seeking is already here within you.
- where you’d previously lose your cool, showcase patience.
- where you’d normally hold a grudge, showcase grace.
- where you’d previously spew out hateful language, showcase kindness.
- where, in the past, you’d scrunch up your nose in judgment, showcase compassion.
- where you’d previously default to feeling stuck, showcase ingenuity. you get curious about where you are + creatively find a way to get out of the situation you’re in.
there’s nothing that was mentioned that isn’t within your grasp right now.
imagine this.
imagine, for a moment, that you’re up to your wits end + you’re very frustrated with how your life is going right now; how life is lifing.
because you aren’t exactly in tune with + accepting of how you’re feeling right now, the next person who speaks to you gets all the frustration you’re feeling in the moment.
they aren’t spared a tongue lashing + i mean you read them for filth!
your attitude is “the next who speaks to me is getting all of this” + they get it all!
instead of repaying you in kind, they see you in that moment of vulnerability.
as you prepare for a shouting match, they give you space to speak + respond to you with kindness.
they ask questions of care + concern.
they give you space to have your big feelings.
then, realizing the word vomit you’ve spewed in the moment, you apologize for what you’ve said.
they forgive you, even embrace you, + don’t hold it against you. they show you grace.
in that moment, imagine:
- how does it feel to be handled with care + concern?
- how does it feel to be forgiven?
- how does it feel to be shown compassion in your most vulnerable state?
- how does it feel to know someone is listening to you even when you don’t feel like you deserve to be heard?
- how does it feel for someone to see you + stick beside you when you’re feeling down + out?
now, imagine that kind + compassionate person is you in action.
imagine the type of impact you’d have on your life by unlocking + activating that level of acceptance.
+ this is not to say that you agree with the actions of others, rather it’s giving you an opportunity to not take things personally.
it’s obvious (+ sometimes not so obvious) that someone is acting the way they are because of what they’ve got going on internally.
it has absolutely nothing to do with you + everything that they’ve got going on.
their feelings are their feelings + that’s just how they feel in the moment.
imagine being able to separate yourself from a not so personal attack + focus on demonstrating what it looks like to use the tools + skills that promote + encourage emotional intelligence.
imagine being so free in life that nothing can stop you from being who you’ve always wanted to be, for showing up how you’ve always wanted to show up, to flex that type of compassion + care.
choose to pursue different.
change the intention of your actions.
lead with your why.
regardless of how others act, you act like you’ve got some sense.
whatever they’ve got going on in their world is on them, but you’re coming to the situation cool, calm, + collected.
being reactionary is not the same as being proactive.
will you pursue your dreams regardless of your circumstances?
will you carry out the desires of your heart when others are doubting you or doing their own things or encouraging you to follow them instead?
will you show up as a person of integrity regardless of the situation you’re facing?
will you?
my final thoughts:
our mindsets are shifting, fam.
we’re doing the internal work + we can feel the changes, the calming, in our spirits.
resolve, right now, that when you’re met with the opportunity to showcase your innermost desires, you will showcase the internal work you’ve been doing rather than defaulting to a previous version of yourself.
you’ve had many different versions of yourself —
how you’ve acted
how you’ve reacted
how you’ve shown up
how you’ve been in a situation
+ you don’t have to be that person any more.
you can choose, in this moment, that the person you were a moment ago you want to be different.
every breath that you breathe is another chance to be different.
with every breath you take, God is giving you another opportunity show up + do something different if that’s what you wanna do.
for your own benefit + for the benefit of all who encounter you today, use today as an opportunity to make a positive difference in the world by bringing your actions up to speed with you who you know you are at your core.
’cause quiet as kept: ain’t no impact like that one you’ve got.
let’s change the world, fam!
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additionally, keep reciting those affirmations!
for 21 days straight we are reciting previously written affirmations.
continue reciting your affirmations this week.
check out the previous episode if you have not to get a jumpstart on this action step.
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i appreciate you taking the time to read + listen!
thank you for showing up today + for being present.
thank you for deciding to listen, to learn, + to implement.
+ most importantly, i thank you for being you.
i’ll see you on the next episode. 👋🏾
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
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