listen to episode 59!
in this episode, we are discussing the power of our thoughts, actions, + attitudes + how it can change the temperature of the day!
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show notes for the podcast episode
below are the show notes (supplemental reading) for this episode!
use them to take notes, complete the exercises, and take action this week —
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dear dope chick,
welcome + welcome back!
how you livin’ today?
how you feelin’ today?
are you ready, today, to take some action?
what you’ll need:
for those who are new here, who haven’t been here in quite a while, or who have been rockin’ with me since day one —
dear dope chick™ is an action based podcast so that means that every single episode you are challenged to take one step that aligns with living life on your own terms.
that means you’re taking one step today, however small, big, or however you wanna categorize it, that aligns with the lifestyle that you most desire.
only you.
this is a step only you can take.
the encouragement may come from all different avenues —
- this podcast
- people around you
- literature you’ve read
- tv show you’re currently watching
but it is up to you as an individual to make the change that you want to see.
i can encourage you with words + it still may not move you to action.
what you have to decide today is: are you willing to change the course of your life?
are you fed up enough to say, “i’m done doing what I’ve been doing + i’m ready for something different”?
that’s only a decision you can make.
you owe it to yourself to steer your life in the direction that you’ve always wanted to go + you can do that for yourself today one step at a time.
let’s get to work!
so, grab a notebook or journal that is dedicated to this podcast so that you can participate in the activities and exercises discussed; to see how much you have grown over the course of your life.
have you heard our previous episodes?
not yet ready do the activities presented in this episode?
we have others that may interest you so if you aren’t familiar or haven’t heard our previous episodes, take a listen so that you can make an informed choice today.
you can listen to them here.
speaking of steps, let’s talk about today’s action step:
- this is a suggestion.
- this is encouragement.
- this is not a requirement.
i am putting this out here so that you can hear it + be inspired to do something that is pressing on your heart today.
to do this week:
today’s action is to realize that you control today’s temperature.
knowing that everything doesn’t have to go your way in order for you to have one of the best days you’ve ever had is one of the greatest actualizations we can have.
think about it —
ain’t it refreshing knowing that things can go wrong (as they sometimes will) + that those unforeseen + unwanted circumstances can have little to no bearings on how you feel about + move throughout today?
anything can happen —
what we may deem as bad, wrong, or damaging —
+ you still can have one of the best days you’ve ever had.
isn’t it exciting knowing that two things can exist at once?
- you can be in the midst of struggle, adversity, + extremely difficult times
- at the same time, you can experience joy, peace, + comfort knowing that you’re always gon’ be good
today’s temperature is up to you.
you can decide to be hot + bothered about any + everything that comes your way.
you can also decide to be cool + collected, allowing whatever doesn’t serve you to roll right off your back.
when we accept life for what it is instead of attempting to contort it to our own expectations we may find what life is offering us truly supersedes our imaginations.
when we decide to let go + allow life to life in the way that it life’s at all times, we may see that instead of trying to control the situation, instead of making something bigger out of what has happened, we may see it’s opened a door for us to walk through that we didn’t know existed!
as difficult as a situation may present itself today, realize that there are still countless possibilities + opportunities out there; that experiencing difficulties doesn’t have to define how you move.
- it doesn’t have to define whether or not you’re gonna stay stagnant
- it doesn’t have to define have to define how you go about the day.
- it doesn’t have to define your attitude toward how you treat people.
- it doesn’t have to define your attitude toward how you treat yourself.
when you make a mistake or when you find yourself doing what doesn’t necessarily align with who you are at your core, having experienced those things doesn’t have to have a bearing on:
- how you extend grace to yourself
- how you discipline yourself
- how you speak to yourself
- how patient you are with yourself
- how you are with yourself overall
— it doesn’t have to define that.
you can decide how you want to go about yourself + that’s what makes today beautiful.
over the course of the week, continue acting as if life is working for your highest good… because it is.
this week, take your time to feel how you feel with the underlying understanding that in all situations + circumstances, life is working for your highest good always.
turn your current situation on its head.
allowing something, anything, to get the best of you is your choice.
why not give your best to what makes sense?
it makes no sense to keep feeding into narratives you want to leave behind.
you are no longer that person, why continue to act as if you are?
that person who constantly runs away from challenges,
that person who wasn’t able to define the lifestyle they wanted to live,
that person that has unregulated emotions + lashes out on people,
that person who was afraid to live life on their own terms,
that person who was afraid to speak up for themselves,
that person who was afraid to rest for risk of being called lazy,
that person who was afraid to wear their own style for fear of being typecasted,
that person who is afraid to be unapologetically you —
that ain’t you, boo.
what is today’s forecast calling for?
is it calling for rain? then, let the tears flow.
is it call for sunshine? then let your joy, happiness, + peace shine through.
is it cloudy today? hey — there’s a season for doubts, too.
+ guess what? they don’t have to linger around forever, either.
you get to make the call for when your doubts will roll out.
my final thoughts:
even nature has to experience its storms.
i read somewhere, + i’m paraphrasing because i cannot for the life of me find the original text, but the text read something like:
why do i like thunderstorms? because it shows me even nature needs to scream!
fam, feel your feelings. seriously.
scream, shout, + let it all out.
cry, ask why, + sit back + deny.
all of those are a way to get through the process of finding whatever it is that you’re seeking.
how do you experience the fullness of life without knowing the parts of life that you’re wanting to avoid?
there are parts you don’t wanna experience because you know it causes unhappiness, grief, +/or sadness, but the reality is how do you know happiness without unhappiness or know joy without grief?
how do you know what life feels like on the other side if you’re never truly experienced this side of it?
we see things + we want to experience life one way not realizing we are doing ourselves a huge disservice by not feeling the temperatures of the day.
everything serves its purpose
whatever you have to do in the moment to release your emotions in a way that doesn’t harm another, do it.
it is only after we acknowledge these emotions + feelings as existing that we can work through them to reset the temperature of our day.
I want to leave you with this:
today is one of one.
this day will pass on never to be experienced again.
this moment will pass on, never to be replayed again. I mean, you can replay it in your mind but there’s no way to make that moment the exact same again.
remember that when you experience a setback or an unforeseen circumstance arises:
the feelings of hopelessness, of failure, of confusion —
the feelings that inspire doubt + fear to arise within you —
will not last forever.
fortunately + unfortunately, nothing lasts forever.
feelings we deem “good” +/or “bad” don’t + won’t last forever + that’s okay.
allow life to flow.
allow the temperature to modulate; to go up + down.
what about extreme highs + lows? do we have to have experience those?
there’s a time a place for that, too!
the overall goal is equilibrium + equanimity.
allowing yourself to find balance, that’s the goal.
understand there is high, there is low, + then there’s you —
experiencing life on either side, nothing to extreme on either side.
it’s okay to hit rock bottom sometimes or to go way up to the top, but remember you hold the power to regulate where you go next + how you deal with your emotions moving forward.
fortunately for you, you get to always decide what experience you will choose have in spite of knowing how temporary life can be.
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additionally, keep reciting those affirmations!
for 21 days straight we are reciting previously written affirmations.
continue reciting your affirmations this week.
check out the previous episode if you have not to get a jumpstart on this action step.
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i appreciate you taking the time to read + listen!
thank you for showing up today + for being present.
thank you for listening, for learning, for engaging with this podcast today.
i hope that you’re able to take away from this something you can do that can bless you + others this week with these words.
+ most importantly, i thank you for being you.
i’ll see you on the next episode. 👋🏾
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
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