listen to episode 75!
in this episode, we are discussing how to use what you have to turn life’s lemons into what it is you truly want in life!
take a listen below!
show notes for the podcast episode
below are the show notes (supplemental reading) for this episode!
use them to take notes, complete the exercises, and take action this week —
[mepr-show rules=”1391″ unauth=”message”]
dear dope chick,
welcome + welcome back!
how you livin’ today?
how you feelin’ today?
are you ready, today, to take some action?
what you’ll need:
for those who are new here, who haven’t been here in quite a while, or who have been rockin’ with me since day one —
dear dope chick™ is an action based podcast so that means that every single episode you are challenged to take one step that aligns with living life on your own terms.
that means you’re taking one step today, however small, large, or however you wanna categorize it, that aligns with the lifestyle that you most desire.
it’s yours.
the life you want to live is yours to live.
the freedoms you want to experience? yours.
the love you wish to receive? also yours.
the peace you want to live in day in + day out? been yours.
now, it’s time for you to step up + take action.
when will you decide that taking a step in a different direction is where your new life begins?
when will you decide to accept that you’re tired of walking the same damn path + that you’re ready to do something new?
you owe it to yourself to steer your life in the direction that you’ve always wanted to go + you can do that for yourself today by taking one step at a time.
let’s get to work!
so, grab a notebook or journal that is dedicated to this podcast so that you can participate in the activities and exercises discussed; to see how much you have grown over the course of your life.
have you heard our previous episodes?
not yet ready do the activities presented in this episode?
we have others that may interest you so if you aren’t familiar or haven’t heard our previous episodes, take a listen so that you can make an informed choice today.
you can listen to them here.
speaking of steps, let’s talk about today’s action step:
- this is a suggestion.
- this is encouragement.
- this is not a requirement.
i am putting this out here so that you can hear it + be inspired to do something that is pressing on your heart today.
to do this week:
making something from nothing can prove itself difficult, but certainly not impossible.
seemingly not having opportunities to do what you must doesn’t have to stop you in life either, fam.
i say seemingly because there is always an opportunity in front of us.
it may not be the opportunity we’d like to pursue, but when our backs are against the wall or we feel we’re staring at the impossible, it’s important for us to remember that:
- we have options + choices we can make
- all things are possible
today’s action is to remember that you have what it takes + you know what to do to live life on your own terms.
remember that the next time you’re served life’s lemons.
by now, you understand the power of transformation + can quickly adapt to making:
- lemonade
- lemon tarts
- lemon pie
- lemon water
- lemon slushies
- lemon cookies
- lemon candy
— whatever the situation calls for, you can + will find a way to make it do what it do.
over the course of the week, continue conquering your fear of being incapable.
think about the times when you felt you had nothing to lose.
in those times, what did you already have + what did you do with it?
did not having a certain something stop you from going after what you wanted?
of course it didn’t!
you went after what you wanted with all of your wherewithal, with all your heart, + with all your might + you did whatever it took to make that experience happen for you.
fam — you still have nothing to lose.
you have everything to gain, but how can you gain when you’re not willing to put yourself out there to get all that’s waiting for you?
when you aren’t in a space to receive, how can you gain what you’re looking for?
you won’t put yourself out there because you lack faith in yourself.
ask yourself why NOT you? why was it placed in your heart if you weren’t capable of getting it done? maybe your hands are always on the project or task, maybe you provide the idea to someone who can execute off your knowledge.
say you want to build a house: well, perhaps you aren’t an architect so you aren’t familiar with how to make plans, but you know how you want your house to look or at least have some ideas, right? so find someone who can move on your idea — who you can collaborate with — who can provide an assist on the project.
well i don’t know anybody who can do that…
sir/ma’am: google is free. directories exist. ask around. go to places where these people are likely to be found.
your excuses can’t be more powerful than your willpower, fam.
you won’t put yourself out there because you lack acceptance —
what’s for you is for you + it will not pass you by. with that being said, accept that not everything you pursue will work out the way you want it to work out, not everything will look as polished as you were hoping, + not everything will have the impact you were wishing for it to have. that’s okay. through the process of getting to what you most desire, you learn what you like, what you don’t like, + now you can use that feedback as an opportunity to change course, to do something different.
on top of that, you will be told no — okay, and? consider their feedback + if it doesn’t apply, let it fly. use that “no” as an instant redirection + use your other resources to find another way.
it’s not your job to convince anyone to move when you say “jump” or to make it seem like your way is the only way things can happen. accept that everyone won’t rock with the ideas that you have + that’s okay!
you won’t put yourself out there because you feel you lack support —
you’ve got all the support you need. you don’t need the support from those who are unwilling to support you. you can live a full + rich life without them. period.
support can vary from moment to moment:
- sometimes support looks like getting all of your strength from a higher power (from God, from The Source, from the universe, from whomever or whatever you put your faith) + pressing forward through the seemingly impossible. your faith helped support you through some of your toughest times.
- sometimes support looks like leaning against the wall + catching your breath. that wall was there to support your in your time of need.
- sometimes support looks like receiving a refund check in the mail for overpayment at exactly the time you needed it. life knew just what you need + when you needed it.
- sometimes support looks like a person in a car waving you in when you’re stuck in traffic. you were looking for a way in + there was someone there ready to support your efforts.
- sometimes support looks like deplaning an aircraft because of mechanical issues because who wants to fly with all that going on in the air? imagine having support from the universe to get you off a plane so that you can arrive as your destination safely + you’re sucking your teeth + smacking your lips because you wanna still get to your final destination “on time”… boy do we have some audacity! what is “on time” — what does that even mean?
i say all of this to say: you are supported. life will + has always supported you when you needed it. so you can use it is as an excuse, but your position has been disproven by your sheer existence, fam.
you won’t put yourself out there because you lack vision —
tap into why:
why do you want to do it?
what you want to do is important, sure, but why you wanna do it is the driving force behind you getting it done.
- are you doing it because others are doing it?
- do you truly feel that way about that person or are you taking a politically correct stance?
- is your aesthetic truly whites + neutrals, or are you decorating your house that way to be on trend?
- do you actually like wide leg jeans or is that in right now?
- you know red bottoms tear up your toes + make your feet growl, so why do you really want them?
- do you really need all those containers + bins to reorganize your house or can you reuse + repurpose what you have?
- why are you doing this?
- why do you want it?
my final thoughts:
so let’s be very clear here: it’s never been about the money.
we are quick to say we don’t have enough money to get started, as if that has ever stopped life from lifin’ or stopped the earth from spinnin’.
it’s also not about the lack of opportunity, it’s not about gaining permission, + it’s not about having access to resources.
living life on your own terms has always + will always be about you making a choice.
it’s about you deciding that regardless of the circumstance or situation, you are committed to taking the chance on yourself by way of intentional action.
you still have nothing to lose, fam.
you know what you want in life + now’s the time to muster up that courage + go for it once + for all!
you’ve got what it takes to figure it out.
you may not have all of the answers, the resources, or the skills here + now, but you know enough to get you to where you desire to be.
today, continue using what you’ve got to get what you want.
once you decide that you will, there’s no doubt that it will work itself out for you.
[/mepr-show]
additionally, keep reciting those affirmations!
for 21 days straight we are reciting previously written affirmations.
continue reciting your affirmations this week.
check out the previous episode if you have not to get a jumpstart on this action step.
affirmation cards are here!
dear dope chick™ has affirmation + encouragement cards readily available on deardopechick.com. head on over + purchase a deck to have those cards on deck while you journey!
cop a deck of encouragement + affirmation cards
these pocket sized affirmation cards are perfect for every day + on-the-go encouragement! shop our decks here.
i appreciate you taking the time to read + listen!
thank you for showing up today + for being present.
thank you for deciding to do everything you’ve wanted to do.
+ most importantly, i thank you for being you.
i’ll see you on the next episode. 👋🏾
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
cop dope merch: deardopechick.com