episode 32 — is that you playa?!
in this episode, we are concentrating on what we can do rather than focusing on what we cannot control!
take a listen below!
show notes for the podcast episode
below are the show notes (supplemental reading) for this episode!
use them to take notes, complete the exercises, and take action this week —
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dear dope chick,
welcome + welcome back!
how you feeling today?
how you livin’ today?
are you ready to take action today?
what you’ll need:
for those who are new here, who haven’t been here in quite a while, or have been rockin’ with me since day one —
dear dope chick™ is an action based podcast so that means that every single episode you are challenged to take one small step that aligns with living life on your own terms.
that means you’re taking one step today that aligns with the lifestyle that you most desire.
do i have to make a move?
while i highly encourage you to take some action today, taking action is a choice — your choice.
- do you feel compelled to make some changes?
- are you willing to flow with life in a different direction?
these are questions you have to ask yourself about your state of being.
we’ve been robotic for way too long.
we’ve been following crowds + trends for long enough now.
you don’t have to change your life because you see it as the hip thing to do — what do you want?
take this time to explore your deepest innermost desires, your interests, your callings — what’s pulling at your heart strings?
whether you acknowledge it or not, you are constantly changing.
allowing yourself to flow, to acknowledge, to accept, + to embrace that change is what living life on your own terms is all about.
you owe it to yourself to steer your life in the direction that you’ve always wanted to go + you can do that for yourself today.
let’s get to work!
so, grab a notebook or journal that is dedicated to this podcast so that you can participate in the activities and exercises discussed; to see how much you have grown over the course of your life.
have you heard our previous episodes?
not yet ready do the activities presented in this episode?
we have others that may interest you so if you aren’t familiar or haven’t heard our previous episodes, take a listen so that you can make an informed choice today.
you can listen to them here.
to do this week:
action for today + always, fam
today’s action is to concentrate + act on what you can control + because this is such a big ask, over the course of the week, continue to concentrate + act on what you can control.
listen — i can’t say what you’re worried about won’t happen.
what i can say is that worrying about it won’t prevent what’s gonna happen from happening.
take action.
you don’t have to worry yourself sick about something you have no control over, but you can take action by doing what you can do on your end.
so what can we control right now?
our attitudes + our actions.
- what you do
- how you react
- what you say
- how you say it
- what you feed your mind
- how much of your thoughts you will believe
because thoughts aren’t facts.
your thoughts, like your feelings, are fleeting.
you don’t have to be stuck in worry-land.
what do you gain from being there? you put yourself through agony twice!
what’s happening for you starts in your mind in the first place.
- do you believe that you are going down that path?
- so why worry about or think about it that way?
- why actualize it in your mind to the point of believing that is the circumstance or situation?
persist through that.
give yourself a chance to see a different outcome, to see a different possibility, to see a different opportunity.
turn your fear into gratitude.
fearing for the worst is worrying — yes, worry is fear based.
instead of worrying, take the time to say:
“thank you for this awareness. things are working out how they’re working out — always for my greater good.”
+ leave it at that.
additionally, keep reciting those affirmations!
for 21 days straight we are reciting previously written affirmations.
continue reciting your affirmations this week.
check out the previous episode if you have not to get a jumpstart on this action step.
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my final thoughts:
i get it.
I understand that you desire a certain outcome.
as hard as it may be, free yourself from having to experience a certain type of outcome + use that energy instead to enjoy this moment.
you know your why — you know what you want + why you want it.
so how it happens is not that big of a deal because ultimately you want what you want.
hindsight is 20/20.
so a lot of the times you’ll find us saying things along the lines of:
“if I knew I had to go through all that I wouldn’t have done it in the first place.”
well… how would you have gotten what you wanted?
there was no other path for you to take in that moment but that path. you’ve gotten what you wanted so what is there to complain about?
the path is the path.
the path is not going to be “ideal”.
what does idealistic even look like?
idealistic it’s a projection in our brains of what we feel the perfect life should look like.
i know what i’ve designed idealistic to look like, what i’ve constructed it to look like, what I’ve designed for a perfect path to look like, but that ain’t life!
i have to accept the fact that that ain’t life.
that is merely a projection of what i feel life should be like.
ultimately, what i’m doing in that moment is attempting to dictate how life should work.
who am me (i 😂) to judge life?
life has its own way + i am willing to trust + accept life.
as i continue to ask for things in life + manifest things into my life + proclaim that this IS the lifestyle that i most desire, i have to believe + persist in that belief that it is happening for me.
behind the scenes
i don’t need to worry myself with the behind the scenes.
that used to be a big concern for me in the past.
when i did that, it showed me that i need to be in control.
back when i believed everything I saw in the 3D, when I felt like i saw that life or my desired outcome wasn’t happening for me in that moment, that’s when i felt as though i needed to be in control.
because I felt like it should look a certain way.
ways you can achieve “4”
- 2+2
- 3+1
- 0+4
- 8-4
so, there are different ways to get to our desired outcome: why do we feel it has to look a certain way?
lose that.
let’s focus on what we can control — our actions + our attitudes.
- are you doing things with a pure heart?
- are you walking in integrity?
- are you doing tasks with intention?
- are you being mindful of how you impact this world?
that’s what’s most important. these questions are what we must ask ourselves moving forward.
don’t worry about what you can’t control — what can you control?
- your reaction
- what you do
- what you say
- how you say it
- what you feed your mind
- what thoughts you’re willing to entertain about yourself, about life, about this world — what are you willing to entertain?
cut out the noise
some of that shit that you see + hear doesn’t apply to you.
are you willing to take a stance against the noise?
to take a stance against:
- when + how frequently you scroll
- what you view when you scroll
- what you look at on tv
- the music you listen to
are you willing to exercise your choice in the matter?
to decide:
- the music you listen to
- what you read
- what you’re willing to entertain in your life
when we control our own actions, we are working for the greater good of us all.
we are doing everyone a service by serving us with your integrity, gratitude, joy, peace, + love.
you’re serving us, speaking to us, + filling our cups just as much as you are filling your own!
let’s continue to pour into ourselves + others + worry about nothing!
focus your energy on what you can do, concentrate on that + continue to act on what you can control.
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i appreciate you taking the time to read + listen!
thank you for showing up today.
thank you for being here.
thank you for taking the time to listen to this message; to shift your mindset (if you so choice).
thank you for taking the time to consider.
+ most importantly, i thank you for being you.
i’ll see you on the next episode. 👋🏾
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
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