no, the situation didn’t call for your attitude,
but as a response you decided to have one.
“now P, you know they/that made me have an attitude…”
+ that’s where the problem lies, fam.
by default, many of us like to blame our attitudes on actions of others.
something doesn’t go our way, attitude ensues.
something isn’t handled to our liking, attitude persists.
someone isn’t acting how we want them to act, attitude on 1000.
today, control your own attitude by regulating your own feelings + emotions.
recognize how you respond to others + situations when they aren’t going according to your plans.
notice how your body tenses,
how your eyes begin to roll,
how your heart beats faster,
how your words become shorter,
how your top lip curls upward,
how the words plop out of your mouth,
+ then work on your response by doing something about the situation —
yes, that includes removing yourself from it if that what it takes for your situation to change for the best.
your attitude is telling you something/one needs to give, something/one’s gotta change.
more than likely, that someone is you.
the situation + circumstances don’t matter; they never do.
what matters is what you decide to do with that attitude you’ve acquired.
all things are working for your good, even your attitude should you decide to use it as a superpower rather than a soul snatcher.
all i’m saying is this:
once you know where the issue is, the attitude is no longer needed to rectify the problem — your use of purposeful action is, though.
frustration did its big one at helping you identify where you needed to take action, now release it into the wild until it’s time to use it on purpose with purpose again.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
what do you feel makes you cop an attitude?
own your attitude: start your entry with, “i choose to get an attitude when…” to show ownership of your feelings + emotions.
now that you’ve identified the reason(s) for your frustration, what are you willing to do about now changing your attitude + situation?