it’s too easy to blame your current circumstances or situation for your frustration.
it’s also displaced anger + merely an excuse to use your current circumstances + situation as the cause of your frustration.
frustration is a choice, fam.
when you can acknowledge that your frustration is present, then, when you’re ready, you can decide to let it go + to shift your mood by choosing to feel another feeling.
“no P, they made me upset when they said…”
“there was an injustice committed! of course i’m upset about it!”
“are you kidding me? so now you’re saying i can’t be frustrated…”
+ to that i say, listen carefully:
there is nothing fundamentally wrong with frustration.
it is possible to feel frustrated, a totally normal feeling by the way, + also honor where, internally, that feeling originated + acknowledge why you feel that way.
for far too long we’ve been told that certain feelings we feel are “bad” or “wrong“.
it’s normalized in our society for people to blame outside influences for our feelings so much so, that we believe external factors possess the power to dictate how we should feel about what’s happening in the moment.
for example: it wasn’t us not paying attention + running into that chair that frustrates us,
it’s the clearly the chair’s fault for existing + being in our way… sounds familiar + ass-backwards, no?
it’s not your job to prevent yourself from feeling frustrated.
the work we must do is to concentrate our efforts on understanding why we feel the way we feel + for determining if that’s where we want to remain.
today, instead of using your current circumstances + situation as a scapegoat for your true feelings, take another look at the origins of your feelings + recenter your focus on shifting from a state of discomfort back to equanimity by taking action in your life.
life is much more fluid when we accept life for what it is in the moment + to move forward with clarity + intention.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
in what ways does feeling frustration longer than necessary effect your overall wellbeing, fam?