when you know something + are a perceived expert in it, it’s hard to let seemingly unfamiliar + uninformed mess slide.
you find yourself extremely critical of what is happening because it goes against the norm + your expectations of how it typically works.
for example — watching any sports fanatic watch their favorite sport is comical at best.
they are screaming “pass the ball“, “that’s a foul“, or “get the ball” every other second of the game because well… they know ball.
well guess what, fam —
you know you.
with how much you know about yourself, it’s no wonder you talk down to yourself when you have a misstep or make a mistake,
that you’re overly critical of yourself + what you do,
+
that your expectations of you are higher than you’d care to admit.
there is nothing wrong with wanting the best from yourself, fam;
however, it becomes detrimental when we talk down to ourselves without leaving room to learn + grow without judgement.
at times, we can be our own worse enemies.
who needs enemies when we are the ones ripping a hole in our own hearts, our own dreams, + our own aspirations?
today, watch how you talk to yourself.
you may know yourself inside + out,
know what you’re capable of doing,
+
know when you can do better —
that’s all fine + dandy.
still, talking to yourself crazy isn’t making the situation better,
it isn’t giving you the motivation to keep going,
+
your harsh words + language are defeating the purpose of extending grace when it’s needed most.
being inflexible with yourself + not giving yourself room to mess up + try again is a disservice to yourself.
you owe yourself some grace, some wiggle room, + the ability to grow from a situation + you cannot grow in an environment that doesn’t give you space to do that.
check yourself before you wreck yourself.
nobody’s perfect, fam — you can make a mistake + still be one dope human.
appreciate your progress,
acknowledge your growth,
+
give yourself permission to be curious at the expense of being wrong.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
| what is an impossible standard or a timeline you are forcing yourself into that you simply need to let go of? |
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