when you see someone doing something in err, is your first instinct to call them out + correct them?
if so, why do you feel you have to address the person’s mistake?
now, it’s understandable that mistakes will be addressed + handled in real time, when you’re actively teaching or they are looking for a solution in you’re in the position of providing one.
however, in the moments when a mistake is made, how are you addressing others + what is your purpose behind addressing them?
are you matter of fact?
are you condescending?
are you quick to tell them “you’re wrong, i’m right” or “i told you so”?
are you coming from a loving place?
if nothing else, be helpful.
decide that the reason you’re offering insight is to help the person, not to harm or chastise them.
also, ask if they would like to receive help before offering it.
sometimes, for reasons of their own, others don’t want the help we are equipped to give them + you know what? that’s okay, too.
we all make mistakes, fam.
it is inevitable.
put yourself in their shoes, offer up advice + solutions that are helpful + kind, + be okay with not saving someone from themselves when they don’t want to be saved.
value your relationships over being right, take a pause + think before offering input + insight, + keep loving kindness in mind when interacting with the ones you love.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
when someone takes your correction as condescending criticism, what do you next?