after an argument is won, how do you feel?
vindicated?
heard + cared for?
energized?
drained?
like a conquerer?
what real value are you able to extract from the moment?
this is why right + wrong don’t matter, for real, for real.
right + wrong arguments are made up in our heads.
everything boils down to a matter of perspective.
you seeing it as a disappointment doesn’t make it disappointing.
you seeing it as a perfect opportunity doesn’t make it a perfect opportunity.
so why argue with someone over what’s happened, over something that’s in the past anyway?
detach yourself from right + wrong + attach yourself to now.
as a result of what’s happened, you are here in this moment.
what are you doing now?
where’s your headspace now?
how are you moving forward?
our programming is strong + therefore, taking extra care of ourselves + paying attention to how we interact with others during this time is paramount.
we’ve been programmed to always be right, do right, act right…
+ consequently, this programming has pitted us against one another at times when connection is most important.
it’s time to let go of old thought patterns, to reframe, + to retrain ourselves to see life as life.
welcome a fresh perspective into your life, fam.
today + here after, seek understanding, seek collaboration, + seek connection.
together, we can do dope things!
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
recall a time where you argued someone down + didn’t meet a resolve.
how did that exchange make you feel in the moment?
how did that exchange make you feel afterward?
are you + that person still in close contact?
did the argument caused any harm to the relationship?
in what ways are you moving forward from the incident?
in what ways are you regaining connection (if this is what you want, of course)?