it doesn’t matter what you say or do today,
but it damn sure matters how you do it.
what you say doesn’t make a difference when people are hung up on how you say it.
getting through to the tone police is fighting an uphill battle, fam.
so where’s the balance?
how do you do what you know must be done while gaining the acceptance of others?
well, you don’t. 🤷🏾♀️
shift your focus on how you’ll do life today.
yes, consider the impact your words may have on someone.
yes, consider ways you can say what needs to be said or do what needs to be done that aligns with your purest intentions.
yes, let go of expectations that saying or doing things a certain way will appeal to the masses or not create conversation, conflict, or consequences (all of which are byproducts of living, btw).
those who need your message will receive it.
don’t allow the potential backlash you may face to stop you from doing what’s necessary, fam.
we don’t + will never truly know how people will act or react to what we say + do.
what we do know is what we can say + what we can do, + decide to take action with the information we have available at the moment.
we can decide to employ discretion + intentionality when communicating + interacting with others.
that’s how we can choose to act — with integrity, purpose, compassion, kindness, + with love.
so when you think about how you’re doing what you doing or how you’re saying what you’re saying, remember your why —
though you cannot control how others will receive what you’re giving today, you can act from a place of love now + forever more.
that’s just how you roll.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
do you believe in tone policing?why or why not?
can you look past tone + see intent? if not, what do you think holds you back from seeing someone’s heart?