the part of living life on your own terms that no one discusses
is the part where you catch so much fuckin’ resistance from those who are unwilling to change + who want you to stay the same, also.
choose change anyway.
it may hurt like hell to leave people where they are, but oftentimes is a necessary part of evolution.
think about how you are now, fam.
remember when you used to be different?
remember when you weren’t who you are now?
what happened to that person?
she’s gone.
though she will always be a part of who shaped + molded you into who you are today, you couldn’t bring her along this journey.
you had to elevate her beliefs.
you had to break a lot of destructive habits + cycles with her.
you had to tell her enough is enough + show her you want better for yourself.
you had to leave her where she is.
+ here you are, standing today, as a different person.
you still love her.
you still thank her for the lessons.
you still acknowledge the impact that she’s had on your growth while also acknowledging that you are no longer intermixing with her.
but, that… that relationship is over.
i said all of that to say — this isn’t an easy process.
letting go can be fuckin’ hard.
but you know what’s harder?
staying where you are when you know you need to go.
staying in relationships that don’t give you space to grow.
staying “stuck” because you want to appease folks.
find your footing + move accordingly.
extend yourself + others the grace we all so graciously deserve.
there’s nothing easy about getting out of you own way,
nor is it always easy to leave when time’s up.
grace, sis.
you can do this.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
what are some relationships that you know you have outgrown but have refused to let go? what is holding you back from releasing them?