the thought of hurting someone for sport can turn a sane mind into an anxiety ridden mess.
though you may feel justified in the moment, you gain nothing but insight + possible regret from maliciously verbally attacking someone without provocation.
+ since we are being candid here, there are times when the curse out is warranted.
yet, there is still realization afterwards that we didn’t have to take it to beyond the depths of hell to get our points across.
we think we’ll gain peace of mind after giving someone the business only to find ourselves recanting the story, defending our actions, +/or reliving the moment — yep —
they are still on our brains,
their actions still live in our thoughts,
+ we still wrestle with the intention + impact of our actions —
where is the peace in that?
today, be willing + ready to forgive first — before the curse out, before the chin-check, before you fully see red — forgive first.
it may be a far less anticlimactic way of dealing with conflict for some, while in others their soul doesn’t know peace from the shame + guilt they have after fuckin’ around with the forgiver in such a regrettable way.
why forgive? to set you free from the drama, fam.
forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with or condoning one’s actions, it’s about releasing yourself from care + concern knowing that no matter what they’ve done, it won’t stop you from living your best life.
it also reveals to us what we are willing + unwilling to tolerate in our lives.
forgiveness provides insight on where we truly want to be + most times that far away from the bs + drama associated with certain situations + people.
while it lives inside of you + you are fully capable of executing it, forgiveness isn’t always the easiest choice to make because yes — call-ins (these replace “curse outs”) + forgiveness can co-exist.
however, there is true strength in forgiveness + it’s up to you to tap into that power + to stop the shenanigans with a peaceful dismissal before they begin shenanin’ again.
be you, be dope!
Phylicia Sadsarin
Mindset Coach
journal prompt(s) for today:
| who/what has hurt you in which you still haven’t extended your forgiveness? what would you gain from forgiving this person/thing + moving forward? what would it cost you to forgive this person/thing + move forward? |