Author: Phylicia

look at what’s happening all around you. you may think it matters a ton, but in actuality it doesn’t. your current situation + circumstances do not matter, fam. i know… i know… sounds delusional, dismissive, + down right incorrect. of course all of those things matter to some degree i mean shit —  if you find yourself…… Continue reading it sounds downright delusional, but it’s true

life is so beautifully complex. one minute i’m looking at a weed growing in a garden + upon picking it, i pause + realize how intricately made it is, how beautiful it is up close + personal. next thing i know, i’m sitting down looking it up, questioning why i pulled it in the first place –is it…… Continue reading life is so beautifully complex

the lack of community is damaging our village. operating solely in “i” mode without consideration of “we” is causing harm in our relationships. human connection is vital to our overall well-being + is an integral part of our lived experience. period.culturally + ancestrally, we were raised to commune together, to raise our children together, to…… Continue reading how to restore connection + create a village

we’ve all experienced a “take me back” moment — take me back to [that dope vacation spot], take me back to [that moment in time], take me back to [that one food joint] — we long to be where we feel deeply connected to the experience — where we had the best time, we experienced feelings of…… Continue reading less “take me back” + more “i love it here”

today’s focus: what you can do. you cannot worry about what others are doing, what they are not doing, or what they say they will or won’t do. instead, focus on what you can do, what you are willing to do, + in what ways you can make change happen right now. doesn’t matter who says it’s impossible,who doesn’t believe in you, or who…… Continue reading focus on this today + watch your world change

one day, all of your worries + cares will lift from your shoulders + you will feel light + free. someday, you will decide that it’s time to pursue your highest calling, to hone in on your dreams, + to make your desired lifestyle your reality. at some point, you’ll circle back on those goals…… Continue reading it’s bound to happen someday

no matter what you’re experiencing right now, you have the right to enjoy life. you don’t have to wait until the grief subsides to laugh, or  until financial hardship is over to have fun, or  until someone decides they want to pursue a relationship with you to go out on a date. time waits for…… Continue reading you don’t have to wait until life “gets better”

proving yourself worthy to others is exhausting. keeping up an appearance is emotional taxing. who are you, fam?you aren’t so far gone that you cannot remember who you are at your core, fam. no matter how many passions, dreams, + goals of others you chase,it won’t be as fulfilling as doing something that speaks to your soul,…… Continue reading proving yourself is such an exhausting way to live