Author: Phylicia

lying to yourself about what you’re going through will not fix anything, fam. sugarcoating shit only produces sugarcoated shit —  sugarcoated shit serves absolutely no purpose + there’s no one who wants to own that or have that around. today, be truthful about what’s happening with you.”this is a really difficult time for me” “i am not comfortable with frontin’ you…… Continue reading all this sugarcoating ain’t helping one bit

near or far, easy or hard, possible or impossible — they are all perceptions. fulfilling your dreams can be as close as you perceive them to be.whether you are successful or not is largely based on how you view + what you make of your current situation. today, don’t think about how far away your goals are, rather…… Continue reading you don’t have to wait to live out your dreams

lashing out in frustration + operating out of anger only complicates an already delicate situation. yes, anger in some cases is justified + frustration is the by product of a overwhelm + disappointment.though there is nothing wrong with feeling these feelings + making it known that these feelings exist within you, acting with vindication in…… Continue reading when you want to lash out in frustration, remember this

for every task, there are a million excuses that can follow. the reason you didn’t take out the trash the last few days was because you were tired. the reason you didn’t send the email or text, or return that phone call is because you’re going to do it later. the reason you didn’t cook is because…… Continue reading a million excuses + this is the only thing that makes sense

how do you make amends with a loved one? how do you resolve a disagreement with a friend? how do you recover from financial setback? how do you correct years of body betrayal with unhealthy habits? they all require you to have this one thing –gratitude.you see — when you are grateful for the relationships in…… Continue reading amends + recovery have this one thing in common

worrying is not only a time sucker, it’s destructive, too. by now, we know how much time can be wasted worrying about shit that likely won’t happen +/or when it does happen, we are usually capable of dealing with it so we worried about it for no damn reason. but we rarely talk about how…… Continue reading not only is this a time sucker, it’s destructive

why are we, as a collective, so obsessed with being right? what’s the issue with being wrong, fam? why do we not give ourselves space to learn something new without judging ourselves for not knowing? when is it okay for us to find out that we no longer believe in something + give ourselves permission to…… Continue reading what’s the issue with being wrong, fam?

knock knock — someone’s unexpectedly shown up at your door. will you let them into your humble abode? perhaps, like most people, your answer depends on who they are + their reason for showing up at the time they did.you vet the person at the door + determine right then + there whether they are allowed…… Continue reading knock knock — look who has arrived!

we get it — you’re waiting until you have the time before you start doing all the things you know you must do. after all, it only makes sense to have time before you start the task, amirite?but see that’s the thing, fam — you’ve got the time to start right now. you may not have a lot of…… Continue reading waiting until you have the time before you start